Real Talk

[DEMONKAI]

Somethin i dont get about women & i will never get. I mean its been explained many times but i dont care and i still dont get it. Why is that when chicks are in an abusive relationship They wait to the last minute (and it has already gone on secretly for a while) when they are near death or hurt phsyically badly? I mean i have a temper my self and i can cuss n all that but i never Punched a chick or broken her arm. I left my ex with a classic shoulder Shakin and then a "You know what? This is crazy. I cant do this anymore. Its over"....and thats all it took to crumble the woman into tears. With her saying "What?? its over?? Its over??". Arguments were gettin stupid. And then the gettin in the face and finger pointing to my head kept happening. And all i did was walk away. Punch the wall and then dont speak to her for days n days till she blew my cell up asking me to talk to her. It was like it was bitter sweet for her er somethin cuz of the make up sex. Crap wore me out mentally. So i got fed up

Anyway thats my lil history version and how i dealt with a pretty bad relationship.

But cats really be whippin chicks out. Now i workout. Im fairly big (not brolic but athletic) and of course stronger than my girl but i never felt i needed to black out and really break her jaw. ive been pissed but i never let go and just said to myself "Yo lemme break her jaw so she can understand". My new girl for some years has a hint about my temper and she doesnt push buttons. So we learn to agree to disagree and then laugh after cuz it aint that serious. We get along just fine that way

I remember whippin my friends @ss out years ago for hittin my sister and shoving her into a car for a lil argument. we were like 18. He still till this very day says "Yo D remember that scrap we had ? We were scrappin for a hot min!" I see red when it comes to my sisters. So thats why i dont hit women and if the chick is that annoying type that pushes my buttons for no reason then she gets Dumped ASAP!


so my thing is why chicks put up with that retarted crap and THEN BE FREAKIN SCARED TO TELL THEIR FAM WHO CAN LITERALLY WHIP THE GUY OUT??..i dont get it man...i like to nip crap like that in the bud early.

[♦ßlôödÑinjå♦]

Because some women love to play doctor they see a loser/misunderstood partner and try

to "fix" them, I have many friends that treat their girls like crap, but that's none of my business.

One thing i learned was most girls just like aggressive men more and treat timid,caring guys like crap.

[Nilakantha]

Well I'm a small skinny dude with long hair so chicks aren't afraid of me, they tend to want to be my best friend for some reason.  Don't understand as I'm tryin' to holla at them and they only saw me as their friend and I always hate being the guy that chicks come to when they man whipping their @$$, cheating on them, lazy, the works.  I'm like, I really don't want to hear that bs since they choose to date these type of men even when they know what these men do/act.  My ex pretty much left me because she didn't see me as someone tough or aggressive, and that I'm always in harmony and cool.  She was from Ukraine, and my ex before that was Blackanese (Half Japanese, half African American) and she left me for the same reason, though not to mention that she cheated on me, used me for my money, used me as a scapegoat for her parents, the works.  Mind you I'm a part of three eastern religions and tend to second guess my actions in order to make sure others are well...though this could also be why women love to be my best friend, though I hate being the best friend.  I'm glad I just met someone new two days ago, so I can change my descriptions, title, and sig  .

[DEMONKAI]

Because some women love to play doctor they see a loser/misunderstood partner and try

to "fix" them, I have many friends that treat their girls like crap, but that's none of my business.

One thing i learned was most girls just like aggressive men more and treat timid,caring guys like crap.

and yeh thats what i find so D@mn stupid. Instead of lookin for the obvious in a man with "Backbone" and is gonna put em in check when they tryin to walk all over em they want the dude that has no problem back slappin the crap out of em bloody. Theres a difference. I can cuss my lady out in such a smooth intelligent way when shes trippin off of somethin dumb n overreacting instead of smackin her. she respects that about me. She knows theres a point where "Dee's gonna get mad" and its not a good moment for her when im like that cuz shes used to me being Calm, nice and silly. But also i can be a jerk too sometimes but i know how to apologize tho & make up well. She still says "If i could walk over you i wont be with you at all" and i said "Yeh i know and thats why i have no problem tell ya go ##### ya self "....then she says "You a mess "

@Nilakantha: i have a lotta female friends but its that way cuz of how i treat my girl and how i come off. They already know they cant walk over me cuz how i am with them and how my mouth is. they be laughin sayin "You are too cute how u say stuff " and i be dead @ss serious. In otherwords they know im a good dude but good with words n make em feel like trash without layin a hand on em. Why? Cuz the respect level is there and when you respect someone your feelings can be hurt by that person. So i dont get it with some women. He whips on ya. talks to you like crap in public and you respect em enough to stay and try and understand em? ....stupid ...

[Nilakantha]

I will never forget the day my step father shoved my mother and my mom pretty much left him for good, so yeah atleast my mom got it right.  I don't understand a lot of women think its okay to be a man's punching bag, because first its a shove, then a punch, then a beating, then possible torture (rape), and then murder.  Its scary.

[DEMONKAI]

I will never forget the day my step father shoved my mother and my mom pretty much left him for good, so yeah atleast my mom got it right.  I don't understand a lot of women think its okay to be a man's punching bag, because first its a shove, then a punch, then a beating, then possible torture (rape), and then murder.  Its scary.

yes man absolutely right. its just sad that it keeps happening. i just hate when a chick has an obvious good option to leave and she asks like the dude is Geese howard and will have the whole area hunt her down er somethin
its retarded

[Alexziq]

I wouldnt say women in general. In my scene there are just as many evil, self serving, selfish, and cruel cheaters as men.

Every one of my male friends are divorced from their wives either cheating on them, or leaving them over something petty. All of those buddies put up with crap for years refusing to see it, kissing their azz instead of kicking them to the curb.

It's a flaw with people in general. I know thats differant than physical violence, but it happens for the same reason.

Fear of being alone, independent, and survival

[DEMONKAI]

I wouldnt say women in general. In my scene there are just as many evil, self serving, selfish, and cruel cheaters as men.

Every one of my male friends are divorced from their wives either cheating on them, or leaving them over something petty. All of those buddies put up with crap for years refusing to see it, kissing their azz instead of kicking them to the curb.

It's a flaw with people in general. I know thats differant than physical violence, but it happens for the same reason.

Fear of being alone, independent, and survival

Oh dont get me wrong AL trust me i do definitely know there are jacked up chicks out there. I know a few or know of some that are friends of either my sister or female friends who are just dead trifelin wrong. Ive been there and so has some of my friends. Its all the same thing. Abuse is abuse. Mentally or physically. And thats why i always have some guard up with women. But i totally agree with ya on the Fear of being alone bit. Its crazy

But mainly my vent is when family keeps that away from you and then be Acting like they wanna save the dudes hide once they see how heated you are about it and wanna wreck him plus you have the ability to do so. what the hell,,im supposed to talk about it? hell no. I see that a lot with chicks. So my point is stop gettin into stupid relationships like that and then envolve the family into it & friends when u REALLY dont want to. Its retarded. Same goes for dudes. The broad cheated on you ITS OVER. her being a B**** and annoyin is one thing but cheating is the definite curtain call on the relationship Asap. I hate when a few of my homies ask for advice and then dont take it. Like they wanna see if what im sayin is accurate first. Get hurt and then say "Yo dee u was right"......

[DARKTALBAIN]

I'll never get it. I see a lot of cool chicks with dudes that abuse them physically or mentally. They stay with them. When they finally do leave them after years of abuse & a broken bone.....Even, If there is a nice guy that likes them, they won't give him the time a day. They go for the same loser type & go through the same sh*t.

One of my girls just divorced her husband back in January. He was a physically abusive drunk. The day he tried to choke her & kill her she decided it was enough. Well after the divorce she had a nice guy chasing after her. She decided to date this loser who has a girlfriend that he lives with, is an alcoholic & abusive. In the mean time when this guys girlfriend catches them & the guy takes a break, she goes back to her ex husband. Meanwhile the nice guy still hangs in there thinking there is some hope, ( which there is no hope )  I feel sorry for the guy, because he keeps thinking this girl will one day see the light & give him a chance. But he's just too nice of a guy. She is obviously attracted to losers.

That's just one story. I can go on about women that repeat the same circle forever

[C.R.O.M. jodafro619]

good points fellas !! its a two way street with that especially in new york. girs where i live are constantly arguing and fighting  with these pardon my french: (bird @## n&&&as ) in the heights and there is so much better for them outside but they gotta be satisfied with that tough dude. I'm a nice guy, but i let my ni&&a out when it is definitely neccessary  !! so i can see myself letting no one punk me man or woman. but a lot of women just love to put themelves in harms way believ it or not. they want that excitement from that tough dude, but cant't exactly deal with the reprocussion that follow that. i learned a few hard lessons myself coming up . buy girls jordans when my pumas look shot down !! not gonna happen anymore!! my girl is from the phillipines and they are some fine women over there man!!! i had to import though cuz im tired of all these chicken heads and their bird-brained schemes !! everyone wants to play what's in it for me? i have no time for that and any man who puts his hands on a woman is a punk and needs to be D)&K SLAPPED!!! women just need to wake up and stop respecting and entertaining ingorence.....

[DEMONKAI]

@DT: Totally right man, same here and exactly what ive been seein too and its crazy. Some chicks i dont be havin sympathy for tho cuz i know whats going on (but i dont say anything) and how they been usin a dude and then get crapped on and violated by the dude they were cheatin on the nice guy with. So it kinda angers me more if i see a Female family member of mine doing that cuz they will be the first ones to call the fam to beat the dude up that she was sleepin around with behind the other cats back if he starts trippin. I dont like that at all. Hell i dont even like it when a friend does that and uses me as an excuse "Oh tell her i was at your house man". WTF?? then i get over there to visit and gotta look this broad straight in the face and lie for my dude ...not a good feelin at all. Now If its some crazy broad that wont leave u alone then thats different! But if its wifey and shes treatin u right then dont Involve me cuz thats lame and too awkward for me to deal with every time. Especially when shes nice to everybody she meets.


@stevesax316  

lmao funny dude man. Sounds like me back then I hear ya on the chicks being "Imported" ...I dont blame ya man if ya long run with a certain brand was a bad taste for ya . It kills me in NY when i see a bad @ss chick with a toad clown of a dude and just dealin with the nonsense from the dude. Its like wow...really? So yeh since my mid 20s i cut all that "Good good dude" crap out. I just deal out what i feel shes appreciating and nothin more. I handle my bizness first before anything now. Before i used to sacrafice but now? hell no! . Man i dont even do the "Flower crap" anymore. waste of cash

But Its sad tho. when im arrogant and stuck up acting its like women understand me more and dig me. Thats a whole freakin lot too. When i was all passive n humble i got stepped on cuz of it. Im not a ugly dude at all per say but its like chicks are turned off by the "Nice guy". So thats why i get upset when i hear chicks say "Oh hes too nice". So im like wtf you rather em not look out for you and treat you like crap? Then months later the clown she picked she aint even with no more cuz he was a lame. GEE?? WHO KNEW?? Thats another reason why i glazed a chick before the woman im seein now. Cuz the broad brought me to her fams cook out and had the guy that she was crappin on (that was still in love with her) ther also and had em meet me. She talked about em badly and all i can ask her was "so why u bring here then?" She says i dunno just felt like it . Hes sweatin me anyway " From then on i already knew what i was gonna do. Glaze her and be out . Stuff like that tells a lot about a chick. Plus i just got out of a lame relationship? Oh heeell no! . Ya wont get me!!

but yeh he was supposed to be the joke of the cookout. I didnt find it funny. He was a cool cat..smh
 

[Nilakantha]

@DT

I actually one of those nice guys that women pick loosers over  , that was why I started dating international, it seems there different standards or something.

[DEMONKAI]

@DT

I actually one of those nice guys that women pick loosers over  , that was why I started dating international, it seems there different standards or something.

no just different culture. cuz if they were here in the states it would be the same crap. i live in NY and even a chick from like say miami comes out to chill, her whole attitude is way different. I love my NY women mos def but sometimes i be like "alright with the attitude crap    geez"....

and i had a couple moments too in my late teens where the loser got picked over me. But then years later i run into the same chick and shes lookin busted and not even with the dude or they have kids and they are not together. ..

[C.R.O.M. jodafro619]

@ DEMONKAI: I know exactly what you mean about women doing you dirty then fast forward and they looking all washed up !!! I gotta laugh at that sometimes. I still look the same as I was as a kid and I'm thirty !! and I see the ones especially an ex in high school totally washed up and fat still on her cluck cluck phase . but they need to stop playing games with guys. truth be told, they play the same game we're playing, they're just a lil meaner with it !!!! But don't know how to clean it up when their bird brained schemes backfire and they're stuck and a lone with ninety kids with 89 daddies. SMH......

My woman has a kid from a lame and he about to be replaced cuz I love her and I'm trying to get her stateside on a more permenant basis.Sorry new york, but yall F%^&ING UP!!!!!!

[DEMONKAI]

@ DEMONKAI: I know exactly what you mean about women doing you dirty then fast forward and they looking all washed up !!! I gotta laugh at that sometimes. I still look the same as I was as a kid and I'm thirty !! and I see the ones especially an ex in high school totally washed up and fat still on her cluck cluck phase . but they need to stop playing games with guys. truth be told, they play the same game we're playing, they're just a lil meaner with it !!!! But don't know how to clean it up when their bird brained schemes backfire and they're stuck and a lone with ninety kids with 89 daddies. SMH......

My woman has a kid from a lame and he about to be replaced cuz I love her and I'm trying to get her stateside on a more permenant basis.Sorry new york, but yall F%^&ING UP!!!!!!

"ninety kids with 89 daddies" That be so true man. Thats the thing tho, chicks can only do but so much like us men in the game but once they get pregnant its a rap....smh. I totally dodge havin kids with just a temporary chick . I cant blame no one but my self if i slip up with the wrong broad that i already know iz a no go for wifey. And yeh thats pretty much the same with me too up n age and still look like i just got out of HS . They always say "Wow D you still look the same from HS"....and im like "YEP!! i see you aged" Thats how life treats u when you live it well & not Grimey. But yeh man i love my NY & brooklyn all day everyday but its a drag sometimes with the Boy meets girl bit . I just go with the flow but i be dying to get outta town for a different vibe. Miami is next for me. I already missed out once with the fellaz . Just a change of attitude is a breatha ya know?

Good luck with draggin shawty off with yaz haha

[C.R.O.M. jodafro619]

yo thanks D we need more threads like this to compare and share advice like this!!! I hope you do make that move. new york is just too depressing right now......

[Nilakantha]

yo thanks D we need more threads like this to compare and share advice like this!!! I hope you do make that move. new york is just too depressing right now......

Not as depressing as Detroit, I'm also afraid to return.  Look at this:

[DEMONKAI]

yo thanks D we need more threads like this to compare and share advice like this!!! I hope you do make that move. new york is just too depressing right now......

No doubt man Just keepin it 100 on the convos Its always good to share advice cuz ya never know what the next person maybe going thru. But yeh im working on that gettin outta new york more often though. The first few steps were checkin my sis in VA. pretty cool down there quiet. But theres many more spots i wanna hit up. DR, Japan, London, Germany, ATL, Cali those spots. so all in due time with effort god willin

@Nilakantha

D@mn thats jacked up. The judge wasnt tryin ta hear that cat. Smacked em easy with 5 yrs Asap.. :|smh..
on that note thats when thing id never do for a chick and thats spaz n kill somebody. Unless shes the mother of my child or my wife then thats different. But i be seein cats really ready ta kill people over a chick cheatin on em. Aint even worth it Thats why i have such a ego where i dont get jealous like that. maybe a bit defensive if a dude is really going out his way to disrepect me while im with my girl but never if shes just harmlessly sayin hello or hes checkin her out on the low. Thats a compliment to me that i have somethin Bad@ss on my arm haha Ya gotta think that way cuz it will drive you crazy especially if the chick is like wow drop dead gorgeous. As long as shes coming home with you and u layin it down right ya should have nothin ta worry about.

but hey thats human nature...dudes spaz out