I don't know if I can trust my own mother anymore.

[Violent Ken Masters]

Hey guys, just to let you know, if I don't respond, it's because I'm at my girlfriends place for the next 24 days or so.

What happened was, when I was a kid, my mother had told me my grandmother was murdered. She even said that on a episode of Unsolved mysteries, and there was a tombstone with her mothers name that my mother and I visited every once in awhile because she thought she was protecting me from the truth.
What really happened was, my grandmother had 5 kids. The youngest daughter was kidnapped and never seen again, my grandmother had gone in a total breakdown and was put into a mental hospital because of this. My mom tried to hide this from me, until today.

The thing is, I hate conspiracies, and the fact that my own mother pulled one on me my whole life is horrible. I mean I would have been totally ok if she just told me the truth from day one, rather then waiting till I'm 19. I mean even after my dad killed himself, and I saw my great-grandmothers corpse be put in a body bag, she thought that my grandmother being in a mental home would have depraved me. I mean I forgive my mom, but I also feel horribly sick to my stomach. I just don't know if I can trust her anymore.

[Aura-Master]

ouch, maybe she thought that you would handle it more if you were 19 but I guess not

I feel very sorry for ya

[Sasuke-kun]

Sorry to hear (Or read) that...

Maybe I'm not the right person that should be telling this to you but I'll still post it anyway...

I understand more or less the pain you are having now cause I had my own little bad episode with my mother hidding the true about something important too when I was around 17 or 18.

But believe it or not...
Even if that was the wrong thing or choice to do...
Try to think that it had to be a very "big" good reason for what she did.

Also, keep in mind that she have more experience in life than you but that she is also a human on the inside and the outside at the same time and you must know by now that humans make mistakes and/or really f*** it up sometimes so...

My advise for you is that you should try to cool your head down and try to think and analyze about her actions when your emotions are under your control again cause they can blind your judgment.

[Darkgargos]

D@mn!, I'm so sorry to hear that...I have seen this kind of thing more often than I'd like....my whole family likes to keep secrets about stuff within the family. I've found out stuff in recent years about stuff that happened when I was a kid...that just disturbed me. So yeah, I agree with what Sasuke-Kun said and just cool down think about it and I hope you can get through this and not let it drag you down.

[Jelux Da Casual]

...wow. That's to process at once. I've got nothing...

[Draco]

it seems you have had a hard life man, im so sorry to hear this. Hope everything gets better.....

[CAPTAIN OBVIOUS!! LVL 16!!]

That was almost hard to take in all at once. Geez, your family had had one helluva...

I wish the best of  to you and your fam. I want to talk about your Unsolved Mysteries episode when the storm calms down and you feel better.

Till then, take it easy!!!

[EXCh33ky]

something pretty bad also happened to my GF, her parents just flat out told her she was a mistake like a couple of weeks ago, these arent even my parents but it makes me furious they would even tell her that

[eSkRo]

All i can say is,
even if  you dont agree,
with the way she handled the situation,
you at least have to really understand
that she thought it was in your very best interest
to NOT know the truth!
Meaning she wanted to protect you!
Not HURT you!

[Acey]

All i can say is,
even if  you dont agree,
with the way she handled the situation,
you at least have to really understand
that she thought it was in your very best interest
to NOT know the truth!
Meaning she wanted to protect you!
Not HURT you!

True.

It may be shocking now, but all in all, it's small beans. She told you know which is why you know. No ones perfect, especially our mothers who have the awesome responsibility of raising us. I think you'll be able to move forward from this.

[Violent Ken Masters]

That was almost hard to take in all at once. Geez, your family had had one helluva...

I wish the best of  to you and your fam. I want to talk about your Unsolved Mysteries episode when the storm calms down and you feel better.

Till then, take it easy!!!

Yeah, if you want to know, just pm me. I'll be back in ten days or so. My gf is coming over back with me.

[Ryu # 20]

What your mother did was wrong, but I guess she did it for love. She thought it would be a good decision.

I understand you're very p*ssed off right now, but you should put yourself in her position at least once, when your mind is cooled down.

That's my modest opinion.

Vamos VKM todavía! (Meaning "Go VKM!" in Argentinean-spanish.)

[b.easy]

What really happened was, my grandmother had 5 kids. The youngest daughter was kidnapped and never seen again, my grandmother had gone in a total breakdown and was put into a mental hospital because of this. My mom tried to hide this from me, until today.
The thing is, I hate conspiracies, and the fact that my own mother pulled one on me my whole life is horrible. I mean I would have been totally ok if she just told me the truth from day one, rather then waiting till I'm 19. I mean even after my dad killed himself, and I saw my great-grandmothers corpse be put in a body bag, she thought that my grandmother being in a mental home would have depraved me. I mean I forgive my mom, but I also feel horribly sick to my stomach. I just don't know if I can trust her anymore.

Don't feel too bad, bro, my granny's in a crazy house too and my mom never even mentioned it until I was around 20. But at least I wasn't lied to about it. Dad's somewhere in Ohio living in a trailer, he hasn't been heard from in years.

Anyways, don't let other people's actions define your life. Just keep doing what you do and strive for personal success.

[KPT25]

i agree with the rest of you...truth hurts most of the times,maybe she didn´t want you to know until you have grown up old enough to take it(although it shouldn´t have waited that long)
As Ryu#19 said,go VKM!!Keep it cooled down so you can think clearly...every family must have a secret or two hidden,there´s practically no exception to the rule(some of them worst than others )
Take care and good luck dude!
"we will wait your return,warrior" (quoted from 3rd strike´s game over screen)

[The Great Matsutzu]

I'm sorry to hear about that VKM. I think it just might take you some time to deal with trusting her again. I mean, it is a blow to learning something this big. I'm not saying to cut your mother off, but I am suggesting that some form of trust may have to be re-built over time.

Oe question though: how long did you grandmother live in the hospital. Was she still alive for a long period when you thought she wasn't? I supose that would make it a little more scary if that's the case.

[Scar]

Damn dude, what hasn't happened..

I mean you've seem to gone thru of stuff that no other person goes thru during their entire lifetime.

All I can say is life is to short, dont waste your time holding grudges ect...

Forgive and forget and move on..(Scar Modo)

I have a short attention span for drama and I rather spend my time on earth doing thing I want to do then complain about what my dad or sister or friend did to me way back..

I know what your going thru is tough, but I mean come on just let it go.

You cant change the past but you can choose your future so try looking foward to that..

[eg6gsr]

sorry to hear about that man but at least you have forgiven her that is a start

[daniel13789]

... damn. i feel sorry for u. thats harsh tho. and. sorry bout ur dad. and i also hate it when people keep huge secrets about me or my family... but... i guess the truth sometimes hurts... but i can kind of see why she didnt tell you beffore. she must have thought it would break your heart or something. but still. its not right

[Nutty-Da-Kid]

wow i could never make it wat u went threw but man thats moms she loves u dearly and im sure she went threw it all to take care of u even without ur real father u cant stay mad at her u got to forgive her although i understand where ur coming from but hey thats mom tryin to look out for u.

[Tundra]

wow! dats just raw.

[C.R.O.M. jodafro619]

Hey man, sorry for what has happened and I hope things get better for ya. I know it was rough to find that out, but she was trying to not dropping more bad stuff on ya and this couldn't have been avoided. But that's your mother my dude, and you only gonna have one in this life. So try to work it and and to reestablish that bond to where there is no closed doors between the two of you. Catch ya later when you return